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Betrayal: When Someone You Love Betrays You

By Krystal Kuehn, MA, LPC, LLP, NCC

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It is bad enough when a stranger or foe betrays you, but when it is someone you believed to be a close and trusted friend, partner, or spouse, it is especially hurtful. It might feel like you were taken advantage of, deceived, humiliated, despised, cheated, or stabbed in the back. Oftentimes it comes as a surprise. That is why it is so painful. You would not expect to be hurt so badly from someone you thought you could trust. So you are left in disbelief and unbelievable pain.
Anyone who has experienced betrayal in a relationship knows how difficult it is to recover from such an experience. The person you thought you could trust and count on is no longer the person you believed them to be. So you wonder what happened. Were you just wrong about them all along or did something change? Maybe your relationship changed and so did their loyalty to you. Maybe something in either or both of your lives has changed and they became insensitive to you. Or, maybe you both grew apart and in different directions.
There are many reasons that cause people to betray one another. Sometimes they are very deliberate and intended to hurt the other person. And sometimes they are consequences of choices that are made with no intention of doing any harm to anyone. Looking out for one’s own best interests can cause some people to disregard relationships they once valued. They may feel the relationship is in the way or not as important anymore. Feelings change. And as feelings change so do one’s actions and choices. An individual that feels their needs are not being met in a relationship might feel that the relationship is no longer important or worth investing in. Therefore, they might seek to get their needs met elsewhere. This changes the relationship. Eventually, it grows apart and opportunities for betrayal emerge.
Betrayal is a destructive force that leaves many ruins in its path. Betrayal changes everything. Relationships and all those affected will never be the same again. The damage done can be irreparable. Trust is lost. Wounds run deep. Anger persists. Hearts are broken. Self-protective walls are erected. Pain is long and lasting. And we wonder…. Can trust ever be restored? Do wounds ever heal? Will anger cease to exist? Can hearts be repaired? Will the self-protective walls ever come down? Does the pain ever go away?
Not only does betrayal change relationships, it changes individuals. Something happens inside of them. They might find it difficult to ever trust again. They might be more guarded and protective of themselves for fear of being vulnerable again. They might learn to be more discerning and less naïve. Their expectations of others may change. They may reflect on their own role and responsibility in the relationship and what went wrong. They might try to understand, empathize, and forgive. They may be motivated to grow from the experience and learn more about themselves and others.
The pain of betrayal is very real and has a significant impact on the lives of all those who have experienced it. It is one of those painful life experiences that have the power to change people’s hearts and lives forever. If you have ever been betrayed, you cannot change what has happened to you or make the pain go away. You need time to grieve and feel angry. You need time to be comforted and encouraged. You also need time to restore your faith in yourself and others. Betrayal hurts and there is no fast and easy way to heal from its affects. It takes more than time. It takes a heart that will not harden. It takes a commitment to believe in others again. Relationships do change as a result of betrayal; but ultimately, how it changes you is what matters most.

Author's Bio: 

Krystal Kuehn, MA, LPC, LLP, NCC is a psychotherapist, author, teacher & musician. She is the cofounder of New Day Counseling, a family couples counseling and child teen counseling center, BeHappy4Life.com, an award-winning, self-help and inspirational site where you can find hundreds of free resources, insights & words of inspiration, and Baby-Poems.com where you can find beautiful baby poems, baby quotes, cute sayings & baby videos that will touch your heart & increase your joy & gratitude for the children you love & enjoy! Krystal is also author of several blogs: Words of Inspiration, Give Thanks Journal, Baby Poems & Be Your Best blog.

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hi.. iya nga pala.. 18 years old.. pashare lang.. di ko na kasi kayang itago ehh.. hehehe..

nakakainis lang.. di ko naman kasi akalain na tong closeness na to ehh matutuluyan at mapupunta sa LOVE.. :| kaibigan ko siya itago na lang natin siya sa code name na jes .. pareho kaming no relationship since birth ni jes..



recently, nainlove siya sa isa naming girl na friend.. pero di sila nagkatuluyan kasi si girl eh may BF noon.. so etong si jes brokenhearted.. that time brokenhearted din ako with someone so sakin siya humihingi ng comfort since pareho kami ng situation.. sa madalas naming magkasama sa school at magkatext kapag uwian naging mas close kami.. nakilala ko siya ng lubusan at ganun din siya sakin.. until one day sinabi niya na naka-move on na siya.. pero may conflict..





may common friend kami (classmate).. etong si classmate at si jes ehh laging partner kahit saan.. one time nagkwento sakin si classmate sabi niya: "mahilig ba si jes sa mga tawagan gaya ng honey? ganun?.."

sabi ko naman: "bakit tinawag ka niyang honey?"

sabi niya: "basta lang :D"

ako naman ehh: "yieeeee.. honey na tawagan nila.." pero deep inside parang kumirot yung puso ko..

that time nafeel ko na parang iba na to.. siguro nga gusto ni jes si classmate.. at ako parang nagsisimula ng magselos.. pinigilan kong mainlove sa kanya.. dahil kaibigan ko siya at alam kong kaibigan lang siguro ang tingin niya sakin.. pero sa araw araw na napapansin kong nagiging MAS CLOSE na sila jes at classmate di ko mapigilang magselos ng magselos ng magselos.. until one day.. di na kinausap ni jes si classmate.. di ko alam kung bakit.. basta ang sabi ni jes ayaw lang daw niya.. (malabo siya).. :D





ayun.. balik sa dati.. magkatext na ulit kami.. at one time sa text inasar ko si jes kay classmate.. sabi ni jes: "bakit ba inaasar mo kami?? wala naman akong gusto sa kanya.. na-assess ko na di ko naman pala siya gusto.. " and with that reply natuwa naman ako.. heto na naman ako.. naiinlove na ko kay jes sa loob loob ko.. dumagdag pa dun yung mga asaran ng mga kabarkada namin na bagay daw kami at kami na lang daw tutal pareho naman kaming single..



hanggang sa dumating yung araw na may nagsabing gusto daw ako ni jes.. inamin daw niya ito nung araw na naginuman sila at nalasing daw si jes.. kinilig naman ako.. at the same time natakot akong mainlove kasi baka naman di totoo tsaka baka dulot lang ng alak..



pero sa bawat araw na kasama ko si jes di ko mapigilang mainlove sa kanya.. pinilit kong layuan siya para di na ko mainlove sa kanya pero di ko din siya natiis.. natatakot ako kasi baka matulad lang to sa dati kong "ka-ibigan" na di ko din nakatuluyan.. hanggang ngayon CLOSE pa din kami.. tuloy pa din yung mga tuksuan, kulitan, kiligan.. at natatakot pa din ako.. ayoko siyang maging reason ng pagiyak ko someday.. pero ako kasi yung taong naniniwala sa kasabihang "if its meant to be, let it be.." haaaaayyyyyy..



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